I’ve never had a problem talking about sex or social issues. But it was only after doing extensive research and co-writing the TED book, Demise of Guys and Man (Dis)connected (Rider, 2015) that I realized just how lacking sex education resources are. So I teamed up with Keeley Rankin to start BetterSexEd to offer objective information and candid discussions about sex, relationships, dating, and related topics. I figured we may as well talk about the whole puzzle and not just one piece of it.
Previous publications include The Book Of O: Orgasm Portraits, which is now available as an ebook. It was actually the Orgasm Portraits series that initially got me interested in men’s issues. Many of the men that I interviewed said that they were telling me things about themselves that nobody else knew. I thought about how good it feels to be open and expressive and how many men don’t feel like they have that option. One of my goals with this website is to help each sex develop more empathy for the other sex, and help bring men and women on more balanced footing.
My background is psychology and fine art, and I have degrees in both from the University of Colorado. After University, I worked closely with social psychologist and past APA President, Dr. Philip Zimbardo, from 2009 – 2013. Occasionally I write for other publications, including Elite Daily. Visit www.NikitaCoulombe.com for more.
Keeley Rankin, MA
I grew up loving to ride horses and did for many years. This has given me two advantages in life: the ability to understand the unspoken language of the body and the ability to use the body as a tool to communicate. These skills carried over into what I do today; I draw on my training as a Licenced Somatica Method Practitioner (a relational and experiential body-based therapy), Hakomi, and psychodynamic therapy to help men, women, and couples reach their full sexual potential, heal from past traumas, and move beyond current intimacy challenges. My goal in working with all my clients is to help them more clearly understand their needs and how to get them met, and how to deal with the challenges and disappointment that can sometimes overtake our lives.
I received my Master’s in counseling psychology with an emphasis in holistic studies and a focus in marriage and family therapy from John F. Kennedy University. I am also a certified queer conscious educator, a certified sexological bodyworker, and, since 2012, have closely assisted renowned psychotherapist, John Welwood.
I believe that when we are in the present moment, old patterns can change during real-time experiences. I use embodied and mindfulness learning to help my clients find their own wisdom, confidence, creativity, freedom, and sensuality. In sessions, I bring a sense of body awareness, gentleness, playfulness, and openness while guiding clients in the discovery of how to fulfill and explore their deepest desires. My coaching style is warm, open, understanding, honest, and I strive to create a unique learning space to discover or rediscover the erotic self.
One of my areas of focus is male sexual difficulties. I have worked with countless men, showing them how to address the shame and sensitivity that can accompany a physical or emotional issues. I am also an expert in guiding men on becoming a better lover, and developing a more profound sense of self-awareness.
What I love about working in this field is how transformational the work is. When my clients share with me how their love lives have changed and how full of energy and erotic pleasure they now feel, my heart fills with love, gratitude, and great joy. In those moments I know without a doubt that I chose this work but it also chose me.
If you are interested in working together with me on some of the things you struggle with, please email me at: keeley.rankin (at) gmail (dot) com or call (415) 689 – 6429. Visit: www.KeeleyRankin.com for more.
As you can see, we are only two people, and our perspectives are limited. We mostly write from a heteronormative stance, and realize that not all orientations are being adequately represented. We’d love to have a variety of people and perspectives on the site, so if you are interested in writing a guest post, please contact us with your idea. We set up BetterSexEd to discuss the most recent and relevant information about sex, because we’re passionate about opening up conversations to help people live their lives to the fullest, yet we know many of the topics are difficult for most people to talk about. Our goals with this site are: to answer adult questions about sex, relationships, and intimacy without embarrassment or shame, to offer a variety of perspectives on personal issues and challenges, and to further people’s understanding of pleasure and connecting intimately with others. Because of mature themes and content, BetterSexEd may not be appropriate for children under 18 or anyone that is easily offended or shocked.
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