Do you know what your core erotic theme is? This is a wonderful book for anyone that wants to delve deeper into what turns them on and why. As Dr. Morin says,
Almost everyone is aware that becoming aroused feels good. But how can we create greater arousal when we know so little about it? Why are certain people, images, and situations so much more stimulating than others? Why do individual preferences and patterns vary so dramatically? Why are most of us attached to specific turn-ons? And what do our turn-ons reveal about who we are and what we’re searching for?
These and other unanswered questions lie at the heart of this book. To further our understanding we must broaden our interest beyond mere sex and explore the world of eroticism. The erotic landscape is vastly larger, richer, and more intricate than the physiology of sex or any repertoire of sexual techniques. The more mechanical and explicit aspects of sex are relatively easy to observe and translate into numbers and graphs, whereas the most rewarding and powerful secrets of eroticism are elusive, highly individualistic, and difficult to quantify. To make sense of it we must cultivate a whole new way of perceiving.”
Even if you already have a solid understanding of your desires, this book is bound to ask you questions and offer insights no one else has. It includes many stories of people of all sexual orientations describing their fantasies and what arouses them. As one reviewer said, “Morin’s landmark contribution is his ‘paradoxical perspective on eroticism.’ [Morin] challenges a variety of widely-accepted theories about attraction and great sex… ‘this new paradigm acknowledges and embraces the contradictory, dual-edged nature of erotic life. It recognizes that anything that inhibits arousal-inducing anxiety or guilt, can, under different circumstances, amplify it.’ The paradoxical view is at the heart of what makes this book special. It isn’t just some scholarly, cerebral view, but rather a theory with profound experiential/ practical significance…”
– Keeley & Nikita
Further reading: Sexual Fantasies – A Beginner’s Guide