My sister just had the first baby of our family, and WOW, there is a lot to learn. One things I did notice, while people are more than happy to offer advice (mostly when not asked), they rarely ask about how she or her partner are feeling or what their experiences are. Many women experience postpartum depression after giving birth. There is trauma from many different angles when new life is brought into this world. The adaptations that the relationships needs to make in order to take care of this new life is huge, and did I mention the lack of sleep?
So what does a family do?
If you are a friend or relative to this person; ask them how they are doing? How they are feeling about all the change? Ask about the fear they are experiencing. Not only to Mom, remember, her partner is just as important.
If you just had a baby and are not getting the support you need, check out Hand in Hand. Their mission is to support parents and provide them with the insights and skills they need to listen to and connect with their children in a way that allows each child to thrive. To read more about their beliefs follow this link. Another great way to support new parents and stay connected is to set up a meal train so the new parents can just focus on being with their baby.
Raising kids shouldn’t be an isolated experience.