Sex educator Al Vernacchio says we need a new metaphor for sex, one that’s not competitive, goal driven, heterosexist, exclusive, or rule bound. He suggests that instead of baseball (the most common analogy Americans use when talking about sex), we need to look for something that allows us to explore satisfaction, like pizza. Watch his TED talk below:
It’s interesting to think about how language can influence or frame our beliefs, values, and behaviors. Maybe you will use baseball or pizza as metaphors for sex, maybe something else will resonate with you. Whatever it is, it’s worth it to think about why you use the analogy you do, and whether or not it’s affecting your approach to or enjoyment of sex.
– Keeley & Nikita