“One way to distinguish between sexuality and eroticism… is that animals have sex and it is the nature, it is the primary urge, it is the instinct, it is procreative. We have an erotic life, we transform sexuality, we socialize sexuality through our imagination. The central agent of the erotic act is our creativity, our imagination, our ability to renew, our ability to anticipate, to imagine ourselves in an act in which we may have a blissful time… we can envision the act without having to actually enact it.” Esther Perel, author of Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence goes on to explain the role of each in our lives in this short clip:
Watch her TED talk on balancing love and desire in relationships here.
– BSE Team