Reintroduction – A Sexual Encounter

One of our readers who would like to go by the name of Rudolph Valentino sent us this sexy story. Enjoy!   When I first met her she was a Doctor finishing her fourth year of residency, and me… I just worked there. I thought she was gorgeous. Attractive, petite, short, with glasses… fuck… I…

Misaligned Sex Drives and Desire Discrepancy

Misaligned sex drives are one of the most common struggles that couples of all ages come into my office to overcome. There are two ways misaligned sex drives, also called desire discrepancy, typically manifest: desired times of sex and frequency of sex. For instance, one person may really prefer morning sex while the other only…

The Key Ingredient for Relationship Success: Reciprocity

Guest post by Ty Lamarr, check out Ty’s blog, Inside the Mind of Ty Lamarr, here Relationships require Reciprocity…If…you should find yourself entering into a relationship based off of how the relationship will benefit YOU…without considering how you will be of benefit to the other person…you may find that…your relationship will struggle. This is a concept…

Men’s Fear

Guest post by Ty Lamarr, check out Ty’s blog, Inside the Mind of Ty Lamarr, here Top of the morning to you all!  Well…it’s morning on my side of the Earth.  Friday morning to be exact…and the time currently…0420.  I’m up early as usual…doing my morning ritual of rhyme writing…usually, when those thoughts stop flowing…I take…

Premature Ejaculation – Learn How To Achieve Ejaculation Control

One in three men report being affected by premature ejaculation. Despite ejaculation control being such a common issue, many men feel as though there are no good resources available to help them. The most common medical treatment from a doctor for premature ejaculation is prescribing an antidepressant because one of the side effects of antidepressants…

Parents and Teachers: What Teens Really Want To Learn From Sex Ed

Almost all teens in America have received a formal sex education by age 18, but only about two-thirds have been taught about birth control methods. Amazingly, only 13 states require that instruction be medically accurate and 19 require information on condoms or contraception, while 37 require information on abstinence be provided. With such inconsistent standards it’s no surprise that…

Help! My Partner Wants Sex More/Less Than I Do

Therapist: “Do you have sex often?” Him: “Hardly ever, maybe three times a week” Her: “Constantly, I’d say three times a week” Having differing sexual appetites is completely normal in relationships, yet it can create stress and strain connection when not discussed openly. We all know how rare it is to meet someone who has all…

Moving Away From the Orgasm Trap

Getting stuck chasing the orgasm is something many of us do. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. With all their splendor and glory, orgasms can create a few negative side effects during sex if you let them take over your night! The biggest pitfall I…

Are You Talking Too Much On a First Date?

For most of us, meeting someone new is a somewhat stressful experience: will they like me? Will I have something interesting to say? Will I feel included? Raise the stakes to a date and now it is: will they think I’m sexy? Can they see my flaws? Do I have something interesting to say? There…

Orgasm Portraits

People have been asking me to share more of the orgasm portraits for some time. For those unfamiliar with the series, I began painting the portraits as my final project during my senior year in college, but continued painting them after that. I completed my goal of 40 portraits when I was 23. Interestingly, these…

What (Not) To Expect From Your Expectations

Guest post from Lady Jane Think about the people, places, and things in your life. What do you expect from them? What do you expect from your partner? Your cat? Your coffee maker? Your shower? Your phone… Are your expectations realistic, accurate, fair, obvious, or even possible? When you turn the key in the ignition…

Is Being Judgmental Ruining Your Relationship?

Over the last six months I have been challenging myself to learn how to be less judgemental. I kept catching myself judging others in a harsh way. I remember asking myself, “would I treat a client who came to my office like this?” The answer was a clear no, so I decided to try to…

What Do You See in the Mirror?

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Take a moment to become aware of all the thoughts and feelings that come up for you. November 19 is International Men’s Day; right now society likes to demonize men, thus many men hold shame simply for being male. We’d like to celebrate men as men,…

Can “Peter Pans” Ever Grow Up?

A couple of days ago I was having a conversation with a man in his late 50s, who described himself as a “Peter Pan.” He said that he is in a relationship with a woman he adores and wants to make it work, but added that he “keeps messing things up” and she’s about had…

How Mobile Dating Apps Are Changing How We Hook Up

Join Slutever’s Karley Sciortino in this Vice documentary as she investigates the ways that mobile apps have changed the way we meet, hook-up, and form (or don’t form) lasting connections. She goes around the world talking to people who use these apps as well as the creators of these apps, asking the questions: have location-based dating…

Overstimulation From Porn Disrupts Pair-bonding

Guest post by Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships In recent years, scientists have been studying a fascinating mammal in greater depth: the prairie vole. There are many closely related vole species, but some species mate for life while others don’t form pair bonds at all (like…

Toxic Tampons: Look for Organic Alternatives

This article originally appeared on Mercola.com. The issue of what kind of feminine hygiene products you use is rarely if ever discussed. Yet it’s clearly an important topic for every woman out there. Your skin is the largest organ in your body, and also the thinnest. Less than 1/10th of an inch separates your body from potential…

Can You Fall In Love With a Total Stranger?

Have you heard about the 36 increasingly intimate questions that are intended to help you fall in love? In January, Mandy Catron published her experience with the 36 questions in the New York Times, discussing whether or not there was a “road map to falling in love.” The questions were originally created in 1997 to see if it…

How the Word “Should” is Killing Your Sex Life

You should be like this. You should do that. If you want a healthy sexy life you should try this with your partner. There are “should’s” any direction you turn these days. People, other people, who you have not met, are telling you how you should act. In graduate school, I heard the phrase, “shoulding…

What (Most) Women Want

As much as things have changed socially between men and women over the last several decades, there’s some things that show no sign of changing! Yup, attraction is not politically correct. As much as people want gender equality, they still expect a man to be responsible for what’s going on in his home. The following is an excerpt from Being…

10 Ways to Become a More Connected and Loving Partner

Inspired by the idea of mutual care-taking, below are ten ways to better understand and connect with your partner: Build and maintain trust; stay in touch mentally. During “sliding door moments,” where you have the option to either have a conversation and resolve an issue with your partner, or distract yourself with the TV, a book,…

History of Birth Control 1914 to 2014

Below is a brief history of birth control over the last 100 years. When our grandmothers were young, pregnant women hardly left the house and were rarely seen in public. How new lives were brought into this world was a topic that was not discussed, and birth control was unthinkable. How the times have changed. This…

Yann Dall’Aglio: Anxiety, Desirability & Seduction Capital

In this 10-minute TEDx talk, French philosopher Yann Dall’Aglio discusses our need to feel valued and desired in the modern age. The talk is in French; a full transcript in English is below: 0:11 What is love? It’s a hard term to define in so far as it has a very wide application. I can love jogging. I can love…

Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger and going right at it (no-strings-attached passion),…

Are There Benefits to Withholding Ejaculation During Orgasm?

A man recently wrote in and asked this question: what are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m asking as I’m curious about how holding back on orgasm influences the male body/psyche. I’ve been always been a guy who ejaculates frequently,…

Michele Weiner-Davis: The Sex Starved Marriage & What To Do About It

In this TEDx talk below, Michele Weiner-Davis, marriage therapist and author of The Sex Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple’s Guide, talks about how to get back to a loving and lasting long-term relationship: We liked her statement: “Healthy relationships are built on mutual care-taking.” When we think about how decisions are made in…

Who Would You Be Without Sex?

Sex is something most of us feel like we need. But how far does this need go – how much does it shape our lives? Prompted by a recent conversation, I started to wonder how our lives would be different without it. Who would we be – as a society and as individuals – without…