Michele Weiner-Davis: The Sex Starved Marriage & What To Do About It

In this TEDx talk below, Michele Weiner-Davis, marriage therapist and author of The Sex Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple’s Guide, talks about how to get back to a loving and lasting long-term relationship: We liked her statement: “Healthy relationships are built on mutual care-taking.” When we think about how decisions are made in…

Pleasure from Pain: Endorphin “Highs” and the Subspace

When you are being restrained (by choice) in a sexual situation, you may, paradoxically, experience a greater sense of freedom. Freedom to stop overanalyzing, freedom from responsibility in the situation, freedom to receive. You are vulnerable to the possibilities that your partner is in control of, which can create an “erotic anxiety” that heightens the sensations. Surrendering sexual control…

Doctor’s Advice: Yes to Rectal Exams

The rectal exam….yes, you need to have it done. I can predict the moment in my conversations with patients when I’m gonna see “the grimace.”  It’s right at that moment when I go over what is involved in the urologic exam, “first we examine the penis and testicles and then sir you just turn around,…

Growing Pains: Dealing with Overwhelming Male Attention

“There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.” – Oscar Wilde When you don’t like being the center of attention or even remotely in the spotlight it can be unsettling when all eyes seem to be on you. Extroverted types may think –…

Amazing Lovers are Made, Not Born

Even Don Juan had to become Don Juan Amazing lovers are made, not born. The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people; clients and friends alike that are concerned about their performance…

Living Like Roommates: How Did We Get Here?

The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless. I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about a British couple who, after 30 years of marriage, return to Paris to re-create their Honeymoon. The movie was quirky, yet…