How Sexual Fantasies Can Explain Your Emotional Needs

In this post I’m going to discuss a new way to think about sexual fantasies; a way to frame them in your mind in order to discover what emotional needs are most important to you as well as what needs have yet to be fulfilled. Often times, fantasies are described as situations that a person desires…

What’s Your Core Erotic Theme?

Image © Ellen Von Unwerth, view more of her fabulous photos here We’ve mentioned the core erotic theme in other posts. But what is it, really? And more importantly, how could it improve your sex life? In his book, The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin outlines eroticism as: The interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges…

Fun Questions To Ask On A Date

Image © Men’s Fitness Here are some fun ways to learn more about your date that I’ve picked up from friends over the years. Of course, they are only one piece of the puzzle, but they’ve always led to interesting conversations. – Nikita *** Starter Questions 1. What is your favorite color and 3 words…

Arousal Addiction and Porn

Arousal addiction, a concept that Phil Zimbardo and I presented in the TED eBook Demise of Guys and later Man (Dis)connected, refers to seeking out novelty in order to achieve or maintain a high level of arousal. Unlike alcohol or drug addiction, where someone wants more of the same alcohol or drug, a person that exhibits…