Premature Ejaculation – Learn How To Achieve Ejaculation Control

One in three men report being affected by premature ejaculation. Despite ejaculation control being such a common issue, many men feel as though there are no good resources available to help them. The most common medical treatment from a doctor for premature ejaculation is prescribing an antidepressant because one of the side effects of antidepressants…

Overstimulation From Porn Disrupts Pair-bonding

Guest post by Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships In recent years, scientists have been studying a fascinating mammal in greater depth: the prairie vole. There are many closely related vole species, but some species mate for life while others don’t form pair bonds at all (like…

Are There Benefits to Withholding Ejaculation During Orgasm?

A man recently wrote in and asked this question: what are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m asking as I’m curious about how holding back on orgasm influences the male body/psyche. I’ve been always been a guy who ejaculates frequently,…

The Elusive Female Orgasm

Keeley’s Orgasm by Nikita Coulombe I have always had an interest in sex; either in being sexual or feeling a sexy energetic connection with people. From a pretty young age I liked to experiment. When people who knew me as a teenager found out that I became a sex coach, it was certainly no surprise.…

A Conversation on Men: Have the Tables Turned?

A couple weeks ago we chatted with T & A, the lovely ladies of Pushing Boundaries, to discuss masculinity and male sexual expression. We highlighted some research from Nikita’s new book with Phil Zimbardo, Man (Dis)connected, and Keeley offered insights from her observations as a therapist. Click here to check it out! – Keeley & Nikita

Pleasure from Pain: Endorphin “Highs” and the Subspace

When you are being restrained (by choice) in a sexual situation, you may, paradoxically, experience a greater sense of freedom. Freedom to stop overanalyzing, freedom from responsibility in the situation, freedom to receive. You are vulnerable to the possibilities that your partner is in control of, which can create an “erotic anxiety” that heightens the sensations. Surrendering sexual control…

All About Prostate Pleasure

In this set of videos, Chris from Pleasure Mechanics interviews Aislinn Emirzian, co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, about what the prostate is and how men can receive pleasure from prostate massage. What is the prostate? In the image below you can see that the prostate is about the size of a walnut…

Desire Reboot

We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find other women attractive, and have battled with it since youth. I…

What’s Your Core Erotic Theme?

Image © Ellen Von Unwerth, view more of her fabulous photos here We’ve mentioned the core erotic theme in other posts. But what is it, really? And more importantly, how could it improve your sex life? In his book, The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin outlines eroticism as: The interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges…

Sex 101 – A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex

I am surprised a documentary like A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex was made – and for public television! Hosted by sexual health expert Dr. Catherine Hood, this 8 part series explores everything from orgasms, sexual orientations, sex positions, pregnant sex, obese sex, how to’s, STIs, ejaculation (male and female), the effects of illegal…

Eating Out – A Beginner’s Guide To Cunnilingus

The vulva can be a bit mysterious sometimes, even when you’re well acquainted with someone’s. One important thing to remember as you decide to head south is every woman will feel different about being eaten out. Some will love it; they will beg and plead for you to lick their pussies, some will actually require…

Blow Jobs – How To Give A Happy Ending

Fellatio… Welcome to our straightforward guide to giving great blow jobs. No accessories needed. First things first, no need to hurry (lay off the speed!!. Many people get hell-bent on getting that cock to shoot cum out as quickly as possible. We want to teach you how to give great pleasure, not just get someone…

The Arousal Curve

When we use the term arousal curve, we are speaking to where you are in terms of feeling turned on. No two people have the same arousal curve, it is different for every person. The curve is a scale from 1- 10. 1 is very little arousal, 9 is the point of no return (orgasm).…

Madonna Whore Complex

We see sex everywhere, so why is it so hard to talk about? Is being crude — thus lowbrow and easily dismissible — the only way to make it acceptable? A lot of men in America have developed a Madonna Whore Complex in part because of this strange divergence. Described as love without sex and…

Premature Ejaculation – Debunking Myths

Because I specialize in male sexual difficulties, one issue men often come to me for is ejaculation control related issues. Many men are confused about premature ejaculation (aka early ejaculation) and ejaculation control, terms that are bunched together but actually indicate different concerns. I’ll explain the difference: if you are ejaculating before your clothes come…

BSPI Test – Understanding Your Sexuality With The Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator

The Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator (BSPI) was developed by Dr. John Beiter as a communications tool to help individuals understand what their sexual preferences are in their sexual relationships. It also was intended to provide a starting point or comfortable means for openly discussing one’s own sexuality. Dr. Beiter stated on his site, “I have learned through…

Awkward Sex – Enjoying the Ups and Downs

We have all experienced the awkward moment during sex. You move to take your shirt off, or your pants or your body makes a funny noise that no one was planning on. We don’t normally mention these moments, we move as quickly past them almost pretending they didn’t happen. Still, they happen. At one point…