Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger and going right at it (no-strings-attached passion),…

Butt Plugs – Possibly The Best Sex Toy Out There

I believe butt plugs are some of the best sex toys out there. If you are feeling a little bored (or a lot bored) with the pleasure you have been receiving, either through masturbation or partner sex, I highly recommend throwing a butt plug in the mix. “What’s so great about a butt plug,” you…

Is Uncircumcised Weird?

I was at a party last week and a friend of mine proclaimed rather loudly, “I would never be with someone who is uncircumcised!” I am very rarely shocked, although I have to say, I was quite surprised that one of my friends was clearly uneducated around this topic. Me, being the curious sex therapist…

Normal Vagina – Is My Pussy Normal?

Just what is a normal vagina? Pretty much all of us wonder at some point if our genitals look normal and how they compare with others of the same sex. Young women especially are becoming more and more self-conscious of the appearance of their vulvas, from the shape, size, and symmetry of their labia to…

Choosing a Lubricant

Whatever your situation is, sex is usually better with lube. There are three kinds of personal lubricant: Water-based lubricants: water-based lubes are the most common and recommended since they’re safe to use with sex toys and latex contraceptives like condoms and diaphragms. Water-based lubes are formulated to be non-irritating, though some contain glycerin, which can…