Too Much Of A Good Thing? When Self-Reliance Backfires

Many of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding in both short-term and long-term intimate relationships. As a sex coach…

What’s Your Core Erotic Theme?

Image © Ellen Von Unwerth, view more of her fabulous photos here We’ve mentioned the core erotic theme in other posts. But what is it, really? And more importantly, how could it improve your sex life? In his book, The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin outlines eroticism as: The interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges…

Arousal Addiction and Porn

Arousal addiction, a concept that Phil Zimbardo and I presented in the TED eBook Demise of Guys and later Man (Dis)connected, refers to seeking out novelty in order to achieve or maintain a high level of arousal. Unlike alcohol or drug addiction, where someone wants more of the same alcohol or drug, a person that exhibits…