The Key Ingredient for Relationship Success: Reciprocity

Guest post by Ty Lamarr, check out Ty’s blog, Inside the Mind of Ty Lamarr, here Relationships require Reciprocity…If…you should find yourself entering into a relationship based off of how the relationship will benefit YOU…without considering how you will be of benefit to the other person…you may find that…your relationship will struggle. This is a concept…

Are You Talking Too Much On a First Date?

For most of us, meeting someone new is a somewhat stressful experience: will they like me? Will I have something interesting to say? Will I feel included? Raise the stakes to a date and now it is: will they think I’m sexy? Can they see my flaws? Do I have something interesting to say? There…

What (Not) To Expect From Your Expectations

Guest post from Lady Jane Think about the people, places, and things in your life. What do you expect from them? What do you expect from your partner? Your cat? Your coffee maker? Your shower? Your phone… Are your expectations realistic, accurate, fair, obvious, or even possible? When you turn the key in the ignition…

Can “Peter Pans” Ever Grow Up?

A couple of days ago I was having a conversation with a man in his late 50s, who described himself as a “Peter Pan.” He said that he is in a relationship with a woman he adores and wants to make it work, but added that he “keeps messing things up” and she’s about had…

How Mobile Dating Apps Are Changing How We Hook Up

Join Slutever’s Karley Sciortino in this Vice documentary as she investigates the ways that mobile apps have changed the way we meet, hook-up, and form (or don’t form) lasting connections. She goes around the world talking to people who use these apps as well as the creators of these apps, asking the questions: have location-based dating…

Why Everyone Wins When Women Ask Out Men

The other day Keeley and I were having a conversation about how effective it is when women ask men out on a date. Why do so many men seem to shy away or not return phone calls or texts when women ask them out? When we thought back on our own personal situations and other…

Friend Zones & What To Do About Them

There are moments where attempting to date a certain person can feel like a game of snakes and ladders; at seemingly random intervals you feel like you’re getting a lucky break and other times you feel like you’re getting your ass kicked back to the curb. You may wonder at what point you should throw…

20 Questions To Ask At The Beginning Of A Relationship

So much heartache and resentment can be avoided when important questions get asked at the beginning of a relationship. You feel a lot more confident in your relationship when you know whether you have the same values and long-term goals as the person you are interested in. By no means are these questions meant to…

Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Many people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are different from your partner begin to show up more frequently. Asking…

First Date – Disarm Your Date With These Fun Questions

Below is a list of some questions and their (supposed) meanings that are intended to help you learn more about your date when you’re going out together for the first time. Of course, these questions are only one piece of the puzzle, but in my experience, they’ve always led to interesting conversations. – Nikita Starter…

51 Truths About Love And Sex For Generation Y

1. Relationships are what you put into them. 2. Everyone loses when love and sex are treated like a game. 3. If you have your guard up in the beginning and then suddenly lower it, don’t wonder why the other person is running hot and cold – they met one person and now you’re showing…

Surrender Date

When you want to mix up dinner-and-a-movie nights, try a surrender date. Surrender dates are fun for newer and more established couples. The idea comes from Dr. Laura Berman’s show, Sexual Healing; no matter what concerns a couple had, she suggested they go on a surrender date to learn how to relax and trust that…

Couple’s Communication Video Series – Sexual Healing

Sexual Healing, a 2006 reality TV show featuring Chicago-based sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman offering advice and activities for a variety of couples as they navigate intimacy issues. Sometimes it just takes an outside perspective to get to the heart of concerns, and help couple get out of their funk, and Dr. Berman does this…