Pleasure from Pain: Endorphin “Highs” and the Subspace

When you are being restrained (by choice) in a sexual situation, you may, paradoxically, experience a greater sense of freedom. Freedom to stop overanalyzing, freedom from responsibility in the situation, freedom to receive. You are vulnerable to the possibilities that your partner is in control of, which can create an “erotic anxiety” that heightens the sensations. Surrendering sexual control…

Helmut Newton’s Sexy B&W Photos

I love the sexy black and white photographs in Helmut Newton‘s book, SUMO. Over his lifetime, the late German photographer did many covers and spreads for magazines, and SUMO is a compilation of many of the most popular images. The two-part photos were something he was known for, because you never knew what might change or…

BDSM Basics

“We are hierarchical animals. Sweep one hierarchy away, and another will take its place, perhaps less palatable than the first. There are hierarchies in nature and alternate hierarchies in society. In nature, brute force is the law, a survival of the fittest. In society, there are protections for the weak. Society is our frail barrier…