Esther Perel on Sexuality, Eroticism & Aliveness

“One way to distinguish between sexuality and eroticism… is that animals have sex and it is the nature, it is the primary urge, it is the instinct, it is procreative. We have an erotic life, we transform sexuality, we socialize sexuality through our imagination. The central agent of the erotic act is our creativity, our…

Desire Reboot

We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find other women attractive, and have battled with it since youth. I…

Mating in Captivity – How to Balance Desire and Love

In her TED talk above, Esther Perel argues good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. In her book, Mating in Captivity, she discusses when we are most drawn to our partners and why, our turn-ons and offs, balancing love and desire, reconciling domesticity and sensuality, and how to give…