Arousal Addiction and Porn

Arousal addiction, a concept that Phil Zimbardo and I presented in the TED eBook Demise of Guys¬†and later Man (Dis)connected, refers to seeking out novelty in order to achieve or maintain a high level of arousal. Unlike alcohol or drug addiction, where someone wants more of the same alcohol or drug, a person that exhibits…

BDSM Basics

“We are hierarchical animals. Sweep one hierarchy away, and another will take its place, perhaps less palatable than the first. There are hierarchies in nature and alternate hierarchies in society. In nature, brute force is the law, a survival of the fittest. In society, there are protections for the weak. Society is our frail barrier…

The Erotic Mind

The Erotic Mind: Unlocking the Inner Source of Sexual Passion and Fulfillment, by Jack Morin Do you know what your core erotic theme is? This is a wonderful book for anyone that wants to delve deeper into what turns them on and why. As Dr. Morin says, Almost everyone is aware that becoming aroused feels…