The Key Ingredient for Relationship Success: Reciprocity

Guest post by Ty Lamarr, check out Ty’s blog, Inside the Mind of Ty Lamarr, here Relationships require Reciprocity…If…you should find yourself entering into a relationship based off of how the relationship will benefit YOU…without considering how you will be of benefit to the other person…you may find that…your relationship will struggle. This is a concept…

Men’s Fear

Guest post by Ty Lamarr, check out Ty’s blog, Inside the Mind of Ty Lamarr, here Top of the morning to you all!  Well…it’s morning on my side of the Earth.  Friday morning to be exact…and the time currently…0420.  I’m up early as usual…doing my morning ritual of rhyme writing…usually, when those thoughts stop flowing…I take…

What Do You See in the Mirror?

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Take a moment to become aware of all the thoughts and feelings that come up for you. November 19 is International Men’s Day; right now society likes to demonize men, thus many men hold shame simply for being male. We’d like to celebrate men as men,…

Overstimulation From Porn Disrupts Pair-bonding

Guest post by Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships In recent years, scientists have been studying a fascinating mammal in greater depth: the prairie vole. There are many closely related vole species, but some species mate for life while others don’t form pair bonds at all (like…

Can You Fall In Love With a Total Stranger?

Have you heard about the 36 increasingly intimate questions that are intended to help you fall in love? In January, Mandy Catron published her experience with the 36 questions in the New York Times, discussing whether or not there was a “road map to falling in love.” The questions were originally created in 1997 to see if it…

10 Ways to Become a More Connected and Loving Partner

Inspired by the idea of mutual care-taking, below are ten ways to better understand and connect with your partner: Build and maintain trust; stay in touch mentally. During “sliding door moments,” where you have the option to either have a conversation and resolve an issue with your partner, or distract yourself with the TV, a book,…

Yann Dall’Aglio: Anxiety, Desirability & Seduction Capital

In this 10-minute TEDx talk, French philosopher Yann Dall’Aglio discusses our need to feel valued and desired in the modern age. The talk is in French; a full transcript in English is below: 0:11 What is love? It’s a hard term to define in so far as it has a very wide application. I can love jogging. I can love…

Who Would You Be Without Sex?

Sex is something most of us feel like we need. But how far does this need go – how much does it shape our lives? Prompted by a recent conversation, I started to wonder how our lives would be different without it. Who would we be – as a society and as individuals – without…

Making Relationships Work: 4-part Series From Dr. John Gottman

In this 4-part video series, Dr. John Gottman discusses relationship patterns (and their effects) that he observed over 35 years of research. Part 1:  Highlights: – Dr. Gottman explains how he and Bob Levinson (visually) observed and measured people’s physiological responses to different kinds of interactions with their partner. They wanted to pick up on any patterns in successful…

Too Much Of A Good Thing? When Self-Reliance Backfires

Many of us are brought up to believe self-reliance or individuality is one of the most important personal qualities to cultivate. And it is. But there is a flip-side to having too much self-reliance that can work against people, hindering personal growth and bonding in both short-term and long-term intimate relationships. As a sex coach…

Healing Sexual Shame

Guest post by Veronica Monet, ACS, CAM, founder of TheShameFreeZone. Article originally appeared in Living Well Magazine Healing shame is a vital step toward realizing your full potential and can have many unexpected benefits. For instance, if you are less controlled by feelings of shame, you may have more energy and enthusiasm to explore your…

After The Honeymoon Phase

Ok, now what? Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns you on. The sex is frequent and fulfilling.…

100 Of The Greatest Love Stories

The Loveumentary is a project started in 2012 by Nate Bagley, a young guy who wanted to work through his growing feelings of cynicism and frustration with love. He came up with an idea to find and document 100 of the greatest love stories, and with the help of friend and partner on the journey,…

Non-Monogamy: Most Common Questions & Answers

Guest post from Lady Jane Based on my other articles, you may have been given the impression that non-monogamy is a huge, sexy free-for-all with no regard for health risks or other relationships. My bad. Since this isn’t the case, I’d like to answer some of the more common questions that everyone wants to ask,…

Normal Vagina – Is My Pussy Normal?

Just what is a normal vagina? Pretty much all of us wonder at some point if our genitals look normal and how they compare with others of the same sex. Young women especially are becoming more and more self-conscious of the appearance of their vulvas, from the shape, size, and symmetry of their labia to…

51 Truths About Love And Sex For Generation Y

1. Relationships are what you put into them. 2. Everyone loses when love and sex are treated like a game. 3. If you have your guard up in the beginning and then suddenly lower it, don’t wonder why the other person is running hot and cold – they met one person and now you’re showing…

Mating in Captivity – How to Balance Desire and Love

In her TED talk above, Esther Perel argues good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. In her book, Mating in Captivity, she discusses when we are most drawn to our partners and why, our turn-ons and offs, balancing love and desire, reconciling domesticity and sensuality, and how to give…