Premature Ejaculation – Learn How To Achieve Ejaculation Control

One in three men report being affected by premature ejaculation. Despite ejaculation control being such a common issue, many men feel as though there are no good resources available to help them. The most common medical treatment from a doctor for premature ejaculation is prescribing an antidepressant because one of the side effects of antidepressants…

What Do You See in the Mirror?

When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Take a moment to become aware of all the thoughts and feelings that come up for you. November 19 is International Men’s Day; right now society likes to demonize men, thus many men hold shame simply for being male. We’d like to celebrate men as men,…

Can “Peter Pans” Ever Grow Up?

A couple of days ago I was having a conversation with a man in his late 50s, who described himself as a “Peter Pan.” He said that he is in a relationship with a woman he adores and wants to make it work, but added that he “keeps messing things up” and she’s about had…

Are There Benefits to Withholding Ejaculation During Orgasm?

A man recently wrote in and asked this question: what are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m asking as I’m curious about how holding back on orgasm influences the male body/psyche. I’ve been always been a guy who ejaculates frequently,…

Why Everyone Wins When Women Ask Out Men

The other day Keeley and I were having a conversation about how effective it is when women ask men out on a date. Why do so many men seem to shy away or not return phone calls or texts when women ask them out? When we thought back on our own personal situations and other…

A Conversation on Men: Have the Tables Turned?

A couple weeks ago we chatted with T & A, the lovely ladies of Pushing Boundaries, to discuss masculinity and male sexual expression. We highlighted some research from Nikita’s new book with Phil Zimbardo, Man (Dis)connected, and Keeley offered insights from her observations as a therapist. Click here to check it out! – Keeley & Nikita

Doctor’s Advice: Yes to Rectal Exams

The rectal exam….yes, you need to have it done. I can predict the moment in my conversations with patients when I’m gonna see “the grimace.”  It’s right at that moment when I go over what is involved in the urologic exam, “first we examine the penis and testicles and then sir you just turn around,…

What Do Men Really Want?

You may have already read our post “What do women really want?” where women gave us the top things they desired in a relationship. We decided to take a poll of some of our male friends, to hear what they had to say: H.R. Someone who listens. Does not try to fix me. Herb I…

De-mystifying the Erection

The penis is one of the most contemplated organs of the body; it’s the source of pride, ego, pleasure, and at times, pain. For all the emotions and energy spent thinking about the penis and its functions many people don’t really know how it works. I’m here to help clear a few things up for…

All About Prostate Pleasure

In this set of videos, Chris from Pleasure Mechanics interviews Aislinn Emirzian, co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, about what the prostate is and how men can receive pleasure from prostate massage. What is the prostate? In the image below you can see that the prostate is about the size of a walnut…

Nice Guys Don’t Finish Last When They Speak Up

I hear it quite a bit in my practice, “He is really nice, I like talking to him, but I don’t want to fuck him.” How do you find the balance between being a nice person, and being a fuckable person; how do you cross the bridge from being someone women are not interested in…

A Billion Wicked Thoughts

I didn’t agree with everything written in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, though it contained many interesting bits of information. The authors, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, sifted through over 400 million Internet searches and found that 55 million of them (about 13 percent) were for erotic content. Who is doing these searches? You guessed it: guys (mostly). Though…

Madonna Whore Complex

We see sex everywhere, so why is it so hard to talk about? Is being crude — thus lowbrow and easily dismissible — the only way to make it acceptable? A lot of men in America have developed a Madonna Whore Complex in part because of this strange divergence. Described as love without sex and…

Understanding Men – Why Men Are The Way They Are

Both men and women can feel powerless in relationships. Sometimes it’s not obvious, and sometimes we call it something else – such as happiness or lack of happiness – when really it’s a feeling of powerlessness. Warren Farrell discusses power dynamics between the sexes in Why Men Are The Way They Are, which was written 30…