What (Not) To Expect From Your Expectations

Guest post from Lady Jane Think about the people, places, and things in your life. What do you expect from them? What do you expect from your partner? Your cat? Your coffee maker? Your shower? Your phone… Are your expectations realistic, accurate, fair, obvious, or even possible? When you turn the key in the ignition…

Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger and going right at it (no-strings-attached passion),…

So, You’re a Slut: Telling Your Doctor the Truth

Guest Post by Lady Jane It’s that time of year again, folks… Time for the yearly pilgrimage that so many of us make to the gynecologist to ensure we’re all in tip-top shape, excellent health, and to get those screenings for HIV, STIs, PID, cancers, and any other health issues that may have crept up over…

Cheating Wives: What’s Up With the Cuckold Fantasy?

You may be surprised to learn that a lot of men (and a few women) have a sexual fantasy where their partner is having sex with someone else. It usually goes like this: their partner is being fucked by someone else and they are either watching or otherwise unable to physically participate in the scene. This…

From Jealousy To Joy: An Anecdote Of Extremes

Guest post from Lady Jane For many of us “monogam-ish” folks, wrangling jealousy is one of the most difficult parts of our relationships and is a common recurring theme. It’s the realization that if you have multiple partners in your life, you’re going to have to learn to share. “Learn to share” is a tricky…

The Opposite Of Jealousy

  Image from Les Liaisons Dangereuses, a novel by Pierre Choderlos de Laclos, 18th c. French author Compersion is a term that means an empathetic state of happiness and joy experienced when another individual experiences happiness and joy. The word is mostly used by non-monogamists to describe a feeling of joy when they are aware their…