Moving Away From the Orgasm Trap

Getting stuck chasing the orgasm is something many of us do. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. With all their splendor and glory, orgasms can create a few negative side effects during sex if you let them take over your night! The biggest pitfall I…

Orgasm Portraits

People have been asking me to share more of the orgasm portraits for some time. For those unfamiliar with the series, I began painting the portraits as my final project during my senior year in college, but continued painting them after that. I completed my goal of 40 portraits when I was 23. Interestingly, these…

Are There Benefits to Withholding Ejaculation During Orgasm?

A man recently wrote in and asked this question: what are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m asking as I’m curious about how holding back on orgasm influences the male body/psyche. I’ve been always been a guy who ejaculates frequently,…

The Elusive Female Orgasm

Keeley’s Orgasm by Nikita Coulombe I have always had an interest in sex; either in being sexual or feeling a sexy energetic connection with people. From a pretty young age I liked to experiment. When people who knew me as a teenager found out that I became a sex coach, it was certainly no surprise.…

All About Prostate Pleasure

In this set of videos, Chris from Pleasure Mechanics interviews Aislinn Emirzian, co-author of The Ultimate Guide to Prostate Pleasure, about what the prostate is and how men can receive pleasure from prostate massage. What is the prostate? In the image below you can see that the prostate is about the size of a walnut…

Tantric Sex Explained

Tantra © by Alex Grey, American artist b. 1953 Most people think tantric sex is sex that lasts for hours and hours, and while tantric sessions tend to last longer than typical sexual episodes, the majority of that time isn’t spent on the actual sex part. So don’t worry, you’re not going to have to run…

Sex 101 – A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex

I am surprised a documentary like A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex was made – and for public television! Hosted by sexual health expert Dr. Catherine Hood, this 8 part series explores everything from orgasms, sexual orientations, sex positions, pregnant sex, obese sex, how to’s, STIs, ejaculation (male and female), the effects of illegal…

Masturbating On Valentine’s Day

I suppose there’s no better day to talk about masturbation than Valentine’s Day. It’s the gift you give yourself really, and much better for your waistline than chocolates. But you can also share it with that special someone if you want to 🙂 “Having sex is natural but talking about sex is not natural,” said…

Female Orgasm – One Woman’s Orgasm

Guest post from Lady Jane So, I’m just gonna go there. Today, I want to talk about the female orgasm, specifically, MY female orgasm. And why shouldn’t I? There is so much secrecy, myth, mysticism, unknown, gray area, doubt, and taboo surrounding the female orgasm. I feel like I can, with confidence, be used as…

Eating Out – A Beginner’s Guide To Cunnilingus

The vulva can be a bit mysterious sometimes, even when you’re well acquainted with someone’s. One important thing to remember as you decide to head south is every woman will feel different about being eaten out. Some will love it; they will beg and plead for you to lick their pussies, some will actually require…

The Arousal Curve

When we use the term arousal curve, we are speaking to where you are in terms of feeling turned on. No two people have the same arousal curve, it is different for every person. The curve is a scale from 1- 10. 1 is very little arousal, 9 is the point of no return (orgasm).…