Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger and going right at it (no-strings-attached passion),…

Naughty & Playful Gift Ideas

The holiday season is approaching, and we came up with a variety of fun gift ideas that you may consider when shopping for your naughty (or nice) partner: Good Vibrations gift card: Let them choose what they want, or better yet, get each other gift cards and make the rule that you have to get…

Embracing A Partner’s Kink

Guest post by Lady Jane What is normal? And who gets to determine what that means? I’ve lived most of my adult life in denial about my sexuality. Even as a teenager, I had a higher than average sex drive and felt embarrassed, ashamed, and afraid to talk about it. I was too nervous about…

Desire Reboot

We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find other women attractive, and have battled with it since youth. I…

Orgy Do’s And Don’ts

Guest post by Lady Jane At BetterSexEd, we strive to bring you accurate, progressive information on a wide range of topics with a side of clever wit, cheeky humor, without a whole lot of judgment. Some topics are easier to research than others and some things while others – like advice to (potential) orgy participants…

What To Expect On Your First Trip To A Sex Shop

Going to a sex shop for the first time can be nerve-racking! Everyone’s experience will be different, but most people have at least a little apprehension – usually there’s a fear you’ll see someone you know or you’ll feel a bit foolish asking questions. Some people might feel very adult-like while others might feel the…

Discover Your Partner’s Secret Sexual Desires

Ever wondered if your partner may be interested in the same fantasy as you, or wants more of a certain sex act? Enter MojoUpgrade, the interactive sex questionnaire for couples. From their site: “We present a list of sexual fantasies to both partners separately and have them indicate their level of interest. After the couple…

Erotic Massage – Video Instruction On Touch And Sex

The New School Of Erotic Touch offers a variety of instructional video classes that teach viewers how to deliver erotic massage as well as become a better and more mindful lover with different sexual techniques. One of their classes, Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions and the Fine Art of Sexual Positions, stood out to us. This…

Kinsey Confidential Answers Your Sex Questions

The Kinsey Institute has a site called Kinsey Confidential, which is a sort of clearing house for their research about sexual health. One aspect of their site we enjoy is their podcast, which is updated every week. It is a great place for people to ask questions anonymously. – Keeley & Nikita

Asking For What You Want In Relationships

Many people in relationships twist and contort themselves around their partner and forget about the things that they want. Often this happens right in the beginning of a relationship, called the merging phase. Once the merging phase ends, the things you want that are different from your partner begin to show up more frequently. Asking…

Having The STD Talk With A New Partner

We know that talking with a potential partner about getting tested for STDs – or telling them you already have an STD – can be scary and feel like a major arousal kill. Even though it is awkward, open communication about STDs is crucial for relationship success! Talking to your friends about your current situation,…

Sex Talk – Talking To Your Teenager About Sex

Image © Phil Spratt As the cartoon above illustrates, because of technology young people are more exposed to sex than ever before. But are they more knowledgeable? Yes and no. While teenagers are watching lots of porn, they are receiving few alternative perspectives about what a consensual, constructive and fulfilling sexual relationship looks like. Whether…

BDSM Basics – A Beginner’s Guide

We are hierarchical animals. Sweep one hierarchy away, and another will take its place, perhaps less palatable than the first. There are hierarchies in nature and alternate hierarchies in society. In nature, brute force is the law, a survival of the fittest. In society, there are protections for the weak. Society is our frail barrier…

Mating in Captivity – How to Balance Desire and Love

In her TED talk above, Esther Perel argues good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. In her book, Mating in Captivity, she discusses when we are most drawn to our partners and why, our turn-ons and offs, balancing love and desire, reconciling domesticity and sensuality, and how to give…

Couple’s Communication Video Series – Sexual Healing

Sexual Healing, a 2006 reality TV show featuring Chicago-based sex therapist Dr. Laura Berman offering advice and activities for a variety of couples as they navigate intimacy issues. Sometimes it just takes an outside perspective to get to the heart of concerns, and help couple get out of their funk, and Dr. Berman does this…