Overstimulation From Porn Disrupts Pair-bonding

Guest post by Marnia Robinson, author of Cupid’s Poisoned Arrow: From Habit to Harmony in Sexual Relationships In recent years, scientists have been studying a fascinating mammal in greater depth: the prairie vole. There are many closely related vole species, but some species mate for life while others don’t form pair bonds at all (like…

A Conversation on Men: Have the Tables Turned?

A couple weeks ago we chatted with T & A, the lovely ladies of Pushing Boundaries, to discuss masculinity and male sexual expression. We highlighted some research from Nikita’s new book with Phil Zimbardo, Man (Dis)connected, and Keeley offered insights from her observations as a therapist. Click here to check it out! – Keeley & Nikita

A Billion Wicked Thoughts

I didn’t agree with everything written in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, though it contained many interesting bits of information. The authors, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, sifted through over 400 million Internet searches and found that 55 million of them (about 13 percent) were for erotic content. Who is doing these searches? You guessed it: guys (mostly). Though…

When Correctly Viewed, Everything Is Lewd

Guest post by Cirrus Wood There’s something so delightful about Tom Lehrer. His avuncular charm, his brilliant yet personable elocution, his professorial bearing. Just look at him, letting out an adoring howl above the piano. Of course, some of what makes him so seductive to we modern listeners is nostalgia for a past we never…

Crazed Fruit: Vintage Erotica From Japan

I love old movies. Even when – especially – when it comes to erotica. I find the plots (and the fact that there are plots) much more interesting than what’s out there today. Ko Nakahira’s Crazed Fruit takes place during summertime in the 1950s on a beach, where two brothers fall for the same pretty girl, a girl…

5 Perspectives About Porn

What’s good about porn? What’s bad about porn? What is simply nobody else’s business? Below are several different perspectives on porn. “Pornography is good for us” debate at the Royal Institution of Great Britain:   “Why I stopped watching porn” by Ran Gavrieli at TEDxJaffa:   “Make love not porn” by Cindy Gallop at TEDxOxford:…

The Coolidge Effect

I’m sure President Coolidge would have been thrilled to have this idea named after him… It all goes back to an unverified story about him and his wife, Grace Coolidge, being shown separately around a government farm. When Mrs. Coolidge came across a rooster going at it with the hens, she asked the attendant how…

Sex Talk – Talking To Your Teenager About Sex

Image © Phil Spratt As the cartoon above illustrates, because of technology young people are more exposed to sex than ever before. But are they more knowledgeable? Yes and no. While teenagers are watching lots of porn, they are receiving few alternative perspectives about what a consensual, constructive and fulfilling sexual relationship looks like. Whether…

Madonna Whore Complex

We see sex everywhere, so why is it so hard to talk about? Is being crude — thus lowbrow and easily dismissible — the only way to make it acceptable? A lot of men in America have developed a Madonna Whore Complex in part because of this strange divergence. Described as love without sex and…

Premature Ejaculation – Debunking Myths

Because I specialize in male sexual difficulties, one issue men often come to me for is ejaculation control related issues. Many men are confused about premature ejaculation (aka early ejaculation) and ejaculation control, terms that are bunched together but actually indicate different concerns. I’ll explain the difference: if you are ejaculating before your clothes come…

Porn Statistics – The Popularity Of Porn At A Glance

Any article about porn statistics needs to start out with a little context. Back in 1996, just several years after the World Wide Web went live, a young man named Peter Morley-Souter drew a comic scene that depicted his initial shock at seeing a couple of his favorite cartoon characters, Calvin and Hobbes, having sex…