What (Most) Women Want

As much as things have changed socially between men and women over the last several decades, there’s some things that show no sign of changing! Yup, attraction is not politically correct. As much as people want gender equality, they still expect a man to be responsible for what’s going on in his home. The following is an excerpt from Being…

Helmut Newton’s Sexy B&W Photos

I love the sexy black and white photographs in Helmut Newton‘s book, SUMO. Over his lifetime, the late German photographer did many covers and spreads for magazines, and SUMO is a compilation of many of the most popular images. The two-part photos were something he was known for, because you never knew what might change or…

A Billion Wicked Thoughts

I didn’t agree with everything written in A Billion Wicked Thoughts, though it contained many interesting bits of information. The authors, Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam, sifted through over 400 million Internet searches and found that 55 million of them (about 13 percent) were for erotic content. Who is doing these searches? You guessed it: guys (mostly). Though…

Sliquid: Flavored Lube That Doesn’t Suck

The last time we tried flavored lube we thought anything would be better than the sticky nasty tasting stuff we had just put in our mouths. So, thank you, Sliquid, this is a huge improvement! We tested out 3 flavors as part of their Swirl series*: Cherry Vanilla: can you call a lube fresh tasting? This one was.…

Crazed Fruit: Vintage Erotica From Japan

I love old movies. Even when – especially – when it comes to erotica. I find the plots (and the fact that there are plots) much more interesting than what’s out there today. Ko Nakahira’s Crazed Fruit takes place during summertime in the 1950s on a beach, where two brothers fall for the same pretty girl, a girl…

Njoy Pure Plug (Size Medium)

If you’re looking to experience solid and satisfying anal play, The Njoy Pure Plug will take you there. This is the real deal. This beautifully crafted piece of sex toy art is shiny, smooth, and sexy; it’s also very easy to insert. The stainless steel finish gives the toy weight (about the same as a…

What To Expect On Your First Trip To A Sex Shop

Going to a sex shop for the first time can be nerve-racking! Everyone’s experience will be different, but most people have at least a little apprehension – usually there’s a fear you’ll see someone you know or you’ll feel a bit foolish asking questions. Some people might feel very adult-like while others might feel the…

Butt Plugs – Possibly The Best Sex Toy Out There

I believe butt plugs are some of the best sex toys out there. If you are feeling a little bored (or a lot bored) with the pleasure you have been receiving, either through masturbation or partner sex, I highly recommend throwing a butt plug in the mix. “What’s so great about a butt plug,” you…

Birth: The Surprising History Of How We Are Born

If you ever find yourself saying – “(Sigh) I wish I lived during such-and-such time instead of now” – read the book, Birth: The Surprising History Of How We Are Born, by Tina Cassidy. I think I read half of it with one eye open, the other not wanting to know all the details of…

Female Chauvinist Pigs

Image © Glamour “What a woman was criticized for doing yesterday she is ridiculed for not doing today.” – Edith Wharton, 1915 Alfred Hitchcock’s films often made us wonder who has more power, the person doing the gazing or the person being gazed upon. Modern expressions of sexuality make many wonder the same thing. In her book, Female Chauvinist Pigs, Ariel…

Understanding Men – Why Men Are The Way They Are

Both men and women can feel powerless in relationships. Sometimes it’s not obvious, and sometimes we call it something else – such as happiness or lack of happiness – when really it’s a feeling of powerlessness. Warren Farrell discusses power dynamics between the sexes in Why Men Are The Way They Are, which was written 30…

51 Truths About Love And Sex For Generation Y

1. Relationships are what you put into them. 2. Everyone loses when love and sex are treated like a game. 3. If you have your guard up in the beginning and then suddenly lower it, don’t wonder why the other person is running hot and cold – they met one person and now you’re showing…

Njoy Sex Toys Review

Njoy makes some of my favorite sex toys. What is so great about the Njoy products? They are cast in 316-grade stainless steel (also called marine grade stainless, used primarily for its increased resistance to corrosion) and hand polished for a perfect shine. Steel does not easily corrode, is easily cleaned and is non-porous (therefore there…

BSPI Test – Understanding Your Sexuality With The Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator

The Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator (BSPI) was developed by Dr. John Beiter as a communications tool to help individuals understand what their sexual preferences are in their sexual relationships. It also was intended to provide a starting point or comfortable means for openly discussing one’s own sexuality. Dr. Beiter stated on his site, “I have learned through…

Choosing a Lubricant

Whatever your situation is, sex is usually better with lube. There are three kinds of personal lubricant: Water-based lubricants: water-based lubes are the most common and recommended since they’re safe to use with sex toys and latex contraceptives like condoms and diaphragms. Water-based lubes are formulated to be non-irritating, though some contain glycerin, which can…

BDSM Basics – A Beginner’s Guide

We are hierarchical animals. Sweep one hierarchy away, and another will take its place, perhaps less palatable than the first. There are hierarchies in nature and alternate hierarchies in society. In nature, brute force is the law, a survival of the fittest. In society, there are protections for the weak. Society is our frail barrier…