Fantasy vs. Reality: Which is Better?

Fantasy and using our imaginations is a natural part of being human. We have the ability to fantasize about so many things – especially sexual things. Everyone has had a sexual fantasy. Whether it is about someone sweeping you off your feet (romantic), unexpectedly meeting a sexy stranger and going right at it (no-strings-attached passion),…

The Elusive Female Orgasm

Keeley’s Orgasm by Nikita Coulombe I have always had an interest in sex; either in being sexual or feeling a sexy energetic connection with people. From a pretty young age I liked to experiment. When people who knew me as a teenager found out that I became a sex coach, it was certainly no surprise.…

A Conversation on Men: Have the Tables Turned?

A couple weeks ago we chatted with T & A, the lovely ladies of Pushing Boundaries, to discuss masculinity and male sexual expression. We highlighted some research from Nikita’s new book with Phil Zimbardo, Man (Dis)connected, and Keeley offered insights from her observations as a therapist. Click here to check it out! – Keeley & Nikita

Single: You Need an Air Game and a Ground Game

Over here at BetterSexEd, when we talk about singles and dating, we often talk about what we like to call your “air game” and your “ground game.” Your air game is your online presence, and your ground game is what you’re up to off-line. In this day and age, you really might want to consider…

Be With Someone Who Pushes You to Be Better

We all need a certain supportive quality from our partners from time to time; when couples come in to see me, so often this is what they have lost. We all need someone to believe in us and encourage us to take risks, and love us even when we fail. This past weekend I was…

Amazing Lovers are Made, Not Born

Even Don Juan had to become Don Juan Amazing lovers are made, not born. The reality is, amazing lovers are not automatically born into amazing lover status. Someone taught them how to touch, kiss, lick, grab, and hold. Every day I have conversations with people; clients and friends alike that are concerned about their performance…