All About Penis Size – BetterSexEd Episode 1

Are you curious what experts say about penis size? In our first YouTube episode, we discuss openly how much penis size matters during sex, to women, and to men. This common question often goes unanswered but in our video, you will finally have the answers to commonly asked questions, including, “do women care how large…

Moving Away From the Orgasm Trap

Getting stuck chasing the orgasm is something many of us do. It seems so normal that it’s become habitual – sex doesn’t “count” unless there’s an orgasm. With all their splendor and glory, orgasms can create a few negative side effects during sex if you let them take over your night! The biggest pitfall I…

Are There Benefits to Withholding Ejaculation During Orgasm?

A man recently wrote in and asked this question: what are your thoughts on male orgasm and Eastern/tantric practices which advise against physical orgasm (but might be favorable towards energetic orgasm)? I’m asking as I’m curious about how holding back on orgasm influences the male body/psyche. I’ve been always been a guy who ejaculates frequently,…

Who Would You Be Without Sex?

Sex is something most of us feel like we need. But how far does this need go – how much does it shape our lives? Prompted by a recent conversation, I started to wonder how our lives would be different without it. Who would we be – as a society and as individuals – without…

The Elusive Female Orgasm

Keeley’s Orgasm by Nikita Coulombe I have always had an interest in sex; either in being sexual or feeling a sexy energetic connection with people. From a pretty young age I liked to experiment. When people who knew me as a teenager found out that I became a sex coach, it was certainly no surprise.…

Pleasure from Pain: Endorphin “Highs” and the Subspace

When you are being restrained (by choice) in a sexual situation, you may, paradoxically, experience a greater sense of freedom. Freedom to stop overanalyzing, freedom from responsibility in the situation, freedom to receive. You are vulnerable to the possibilities that your partner is in control of, which can create an “erotic anxiety” that heightens the sensations. Surrendering sexual control…

What Sweaty T-Shirts Can Tell Us About Love

When it comes to mate selection, how much do we know about why we are attracted to certain people over others? Evolutionary psychologists are just starting to investigate this question. One of the most interesting experiments so far, known as the “sweaty t-shirt experiment,” lends some insight; we unconsciously find people who are genetically different…

What Do Men Really Want?

You may have already read our post “What do women really want?” where women gave us the top things they desired in a relationship. We decided to take a poll of some of our male friends, to hear what they had to say: H.R. Someone who listens. Does not try to fix me. Herb I…

De-mystifying the Erection

The penis is one of the most contemplated organs of the body; it’s the source of pride, ego, pleasure, and at times, pain. For all the emotions and energy spent thinking about the penis and its functions many people don’t really know how it works. I’m here to help clear a few things up for…

What Do Women Really Want?

Image via What Women Want Given that there is so much hype around “what women really want,” we decided to post what we, the women of BSE (and some of our friends!) really want from a relationship. Below are the first two things that we thought of when presented with this question: what do you really…

Let’s Rebrand Foreplay

Let’s do it! Right here, right now, let’s forever change what we refer to as “foreplay” to something else. Let re-brand foreplay to more accurately represent the sex acts for what they are. First off, it’s all play. Sex is, at its finest, adult play. It is how us adults have a good time, let…

Legal Issues Around Sexting

Sexting can be fun, but you might unwittingly break some laws you didn’t know about. For example, a lot of teens under 18 years old don’t realize that the sexy photos they have of their sweetheart could, in a court of law, be considered possession of child porn or distribution of child porn (if they…

To Flirt Or To Fuck?

When I was asked to present at the event, Master the F Word: Flirting, my first thought was “What do I do when I flirt with someone?” The answer was simple: I imagine myself fucking them. From this idea, I ran an experiential with the group, giving participants instructions to talk to the person in…

Making Relationships Work: 4-part Series From Dr. John Gottman

In this 4-part video series, Dr. John Gottman discusses relationship patterns (and their effects) that he observed over 35 years of research. Part 1:  Highlights: – Dr. Gottman explains how he and Bob Levinson (visually) observed and measured people’s physiological responses to different kinds of interactions with their partner. They wanted to pick up on any patterns in successful…

Teaching Kids About Consent: Having The Other “Talk”

Guest post from Lady Jane Conversations about consent are all the rage these days, as well they should be. In a culture where assault, boundary breaking, and unwanted physical contact are prominent, what better place to start combating this issue than with beginning the conversation with our children. It’s true, giving kids too much information…

Diet & Libido: Eating Right For A Better Sex Life

You know when you eat something that your body doesn’t agree with. Your energy dips, you feel bloated and grumpy, mental fog descends, you might get acid reflux, and… oh yeah, your libido disappears. On the other hand, when you consistently give your body the kind of fuel it needs, it becomes a place you…

Get In Your Body First Thing In The Morning

Don’t wait till sex shows up to find pleasure in your day. You can be in your pleasure all day. One way to do this is to get into your body and find your pleasure first thing in the morning. One thing that I love and have found incredibly useful to find and connect with…

Rape Is Everyone’s Problem

Several people who have read this article found it triggering, and this topic may not be appropriate for all readers. Our intent is to shed light on the sensitive topic of sexism against men and male victims of sexual assault. This topic is controversial and often goes overlooked. Here at BetterSexEd, we are committed to…

After The Honeymoon Phase

Ok, now what? Most of us have listened to stories from friends or experienced the typical arch of a sexual relationship. You start out with a burning lust and desire for the other person; it feels so good to be with them and everything they do turns you on. The sex is frequent and fulfilling.…

Tantric Sex Explained

Tantra © by Alex Grey, American artist b. 1953 Most people think tantric sex is sex that lasts for hours and hours, and while tantric sessions tend to last longer than typical sexual episodes, the majority of that time isn’t spent on the actual sex part. So don’t worry, you’re not going to have to run…

What’s Your Core Erotic Theme?

Image © Ellen Von Unwerth, view more of her fabulous photos here We’ve mentioned the core erotic theme in other posts. But what is it, really? And more importantly, how could it improve your sex life? In his book, The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin outlines eroticism as: The interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges…

Good In Bed

If you’re into sex, self-improvement, and reading, check out Good in Bed, a site offering inexpensive eBooks addressing a variety of sexual and related health issues as well as advice and ways to improve on what’s already working. From their site, “According to CNN, over 40 million Americans are stuck in a sex rut and more…

Sex 101 – A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex

I am surprised a documentary like A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex was made – and for public television! Hosted by sexual health expert Dr. Catherine Hood, this 8 part series explores everything from orgasms, sexual orientations, sex positions, pregnant sex, obese sex, how to’s, STIs, ejaculation (male and female), the effects of illegal…

Orgy Do’s And Don’ts

Guest post by Lady Jane At BetterSexEd, we strive to bring you accurate, progressive information on a wide range of topics with a side of clever wit, cheeky humor, without a whole lot of judgment. Some topics are easier to research than others and some things while others – like advice to (potential) orgy participants…

How To Introduce Sex Toys Into The Bedroom

Introducing new activities and changing things up in the bedroom can be fun, invigorating, and also a little scary. A lot of people find it hard to ask for what they want, for example, “I want a vibrator in our bed.” There can also be a fear that your partner thinks that what you’ve been…

Erotic Massage – Video Instruction On Touch And Sex

The New School Of Erotic Touch offers a variety of instructional video classes that teach viewers how to deliver erotic massage as well as become a better and more mindful lover with different sexual techniques. One of their classes, Kama Sutra of Sexual Positions and the Fine Art of Sexual Positions, stood out to us. This…

The New School Of Erotic Touch

The New School of Erotic Touch is a wonderful resource for anyone looking to improve their sex life with new ideas and techniques. Their site offers a wide variety of instruction, including erotic massage for men and women, sensual techniques for oral, anal, and vaginal sex, tantra, and masturbation. The typical cost of a video…

10 Things I Wish My Parents Had Told Me About Sex

Guest post from Lady Jane My therapist is quick to ask me about my childhood when addressing my issues as an adult. Sure, it would be easy to point the finger at Mom and Dad for screwing us all up big time, but let’s not be too quick to harshly judge our upbringing. While sitting…

How We Talk About Sex Matters

Sex educator Al Vernacchio says we need a new metaphor for sex, one that’s not competitive, goal driven, heterosexist, exclusive, or rule bound. He suggests that instead of baseball (the most common analogy Americans use when talking about sex), we need to look for something that allows us to explore satisfaction, like pizza. Watch his…

Non-Monogamy: Most Common Questions & Answers

Guest post from Lady Jane Based on my other articles, you may have been given the impression that non-monogamy is a huge, sexy free-for-all with no regard for health risks or other relationships. My bad. Since this isn’t the case, I’d like to answer some of the more common questions that everyone wants to ask,…

Butt Plugs – Possibly The Best Sex Toy Out There

I believe butt plugs are some of the best sex toys out there. If you are feeling a little bored (or a lot bored) with the pleasure you have been receiving, either through masturbation or partner sex, I highly recommend throwing a butt plug in the mix. “What’s so great about a butt plug,” you…