The Elusive Female Orgasm

Keeley’s Orgasm by Nikita Coulombe I have always had an interest in sex; either in being sexual or feeling a sexy energetic connection with people. From a pretty young age I liked to experiment. When people who knew me as a teenager found out that I became a sex coach, it was certainly no surprise.…

A Conversation on Men: Have the Tables Turned?

A couple weeks ago we chatted with T & A, the lovely ladies of Pushing Boundaries, to discuss masculinity and male sexual expression. We highlighted some research from Nikita’s new book with Phil Zimbardo, Man (Dis)connected, and Keeley offered insights from her observations as a therapist. Click here to check it out! – Keeley & Nikita

Esther Perel on Sexuality, Eroticism & Aliveness

“One way to distinguish between sexuality and eroticism… is that animals have sex and it is the nature, it is the primary urge, it is the instinct, it is procreative. We have an erotic life, we transform sexuality, we socialize sexuality through our imagination. The central agent of the erotic act is our creativity, our…

Teaching Kids About Consent: Having The Other “Talk”

Guest post from Lady Jane Conversations about consent are all the rage these days, as well they should be. In a culture where assault, boundary breaking, and unwanted physical contact are prominent, what better place to start combating this issue than with beginning the conversation with our children. It’s true, giving kids too much information…

What’s Your Core Erotic Theme?

Image © Ellen Von Unwerth, view more of her fabulous photos here We’ve mentioned the core erotic theme in other posts. But what is it, really? And more importantly, how could it improve your sex life? In his book, The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin outlines eroticism as: The interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges…

Sex 101 – A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex

I am surprised a documentary like A Girl’s Guide To 21st Century Sex was made – and for public television! Hosted by sexual health expert Dr. Catherine Hood, this 8 part series explores everything from orgasms, sexual orientations, sex positions, pregnant sex, obese sex, how to’s, STIs, ejaculation (male and female), the effects of illegal…

S.E.X. The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide To Get You Through High School and College

If you are a high schooler or University student, or you’re looking for a good book about sex education for your high-schooler or University student, in addition to Good Vibrations Guide To Great Sex, we’d recommend S.E.X. The All-You-Need-To-Know Progressive Sexuality Guide To Get You Through High School and College by Heather Corinna, executive director of…

Masturbating On Valentine’s Day

I suppose there’s no better day to talk about masturbation than Valentine’s Day. It’s the gift you give yourself really, and much better for your waistline than chocolates. But you can also share it with that special someone if you want to 🙂 “Having sex is natural but talking about sex is not natural,” said…

Kinsey Confidential Answers Your Sex Questions

The Kinsey Institute has a site called Kinsey Confidential, which is a sort of clearing house for their research about sexual health. One aspect of their site we enjoy is their podcast, which is updated every week. It is a great place for people to ask questions anonymously. – Keeley & Nikita

Al Vernacchio Asks – What’s Your Sexual Footprint?

It’s interesting to consider the “ripple effect” our actions and attitudes have, especially when it comes to sex. What is a sexual footprint? Al Vernacchio, a sex education teacher at Friends’ Central, a private Quaker school just outside Philadelphia, says it’s the path that is created by the decisions we make and the actions we take regarding our sexual selves.…

Female Chauvinist Pigs

Image © Glamour “What a woman was criticized for doing yesterday she is ridiculed for not doing today.” – Edith Wharton, 1915 Alfred Hitchcock’s films often made us wonder who has more power, the person doing the gazing or the person being gazed upon. Modern expressions of sexuality make many wonder the same thing. In her book, Female Chauvinist Pigs, Ariel…

51 Truths About Love And Sex For Generation Y

1. Relationships are what you put into them. 2. Everyone loses when love and sex are treated like a game. 3. If you have your guard up in the beginning and then suddenly lower it, don’t wonder why the other person is running hot and cold – they met one person and now you’re showing…

BSPI Test – Understanding Your Sexuality With The Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator

The Beiter Sexuality Preference Indicator (BSPI) was developed by Dr. John Beiter as a communications tool to help individuals understand what their sexual preferences are in their sexual relationships. It also was intended to provide a starting point or comfortable means for openly discussing one’s own sexuality. Dr. Beiter stated on his site, “I have learned through…

Body Image Mindfulness

Exploring human sexuality inevitably leads to a discussion around body image. We need and want our bodies to feel pleasure, yet we judge, shame, think and say awful things about them. So many of the images we see in the media are doctored beyond belief, and we all feel the pressure to look “perfect” (if…