Sexual fantasies… we’ve all got them! Yet, just because we all have fantasies doesn’t make it easy to talk about them with a partner. One of the reasons we seldom talk about fantasies is because they are often taboo and irrational in nature. They are difficult to understand and makes sense of, which makes the…
Sexual fantasies — we ALL have them — the stories, plots and ideas that run around in our heads and get us hot, hard and wet, bringing us to orgasm and beyond. Some people can easily express and share their deepest, dirtiest, wildest fantasies and not feel the fear of judgment or shame, while most…
When you look in the mirror, what do you see? Take a moment to become aware of all the thoughts and feelings that come up for you. November 19 is International Men’s Day; right now society likes to demonize men, thus many men hold shame simply for being male. We’d like to celebrate men as men,…
Here at BetterSexEd, we talk a lot about getting into the body and out of the thinking mind during sex. But in life, we tend to prioritize our physical health over our emotional and mental health, probably because it’s the first thing people see and judge us on. In his TEDx Talk, Guy Winch, psychologist and…
A couple weeks ago we chatted with T & A, the lovely ladies of Pushing Boundaries, to discuss masculinity and male sexual expression. We highlighted some research from Nikita’s new book with Phil Zimbardo, Man (Dis)connected, and Keeley offered insights from her observations as a therapist. Click here to check it out! – Keeley & Nikita
Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of my favorite things to explore with clients in session is their relationship with their own body. Something I have noticed in working…
Guest Post by Lady Jane It’s that time of year again, folks… Time for the yearly pilgrimage that so many of us make to the gynecologist to ensure we’re all in tip-top shape, excellent health, and to get those screenings for HIV, STIs, PID, cancers, and any other health issues that may have crept up over…
Image © Ellen Von Unwerth, view more of her fabulous photos here We’ve mentioned the core erotic theme in other posts. But what is it, really? And more importantly, how could it improve your sex life? In his book, The Erotic Mind, Jack Morin outlines eroticism as: The interplay of sexual arousal with the challenges…
What’s good about porn? What’s bad about porn? What is simply nobody else’s business? Below are several different perspectives on porn. “Pornography is good for us” debate at the Royal Institution of Great Britain: “Why I stopped watching porn” by Ran Gavrieli at TEDxJaffa: “Make love not porn” by Cindy Gallop at TEDxOxford:…
Yes, people who act as sex surrogates actually exist. The proper terminology for this line of work is surrogate partner therapy. Before the AIDs scare of the 1990s, there were many more sexual surrogacy partners than there are now. With the fear of a deadly sexual transmitted disease, many surrogates closed up shop and chose other…
Image © Phil Spratt As the cartoon above illustrates, because of technology young people are more exposed to sex than ever before. But are they more knowledgeable? Yes and no. While teenagers are watching lots of porn, they are receiving few alternative perspectives about what a consensual, constructive and fulfilling sexual relationship looks like. Whether…
We see sex everywhere, so why is it so hard to talk about? Is being crude — thus lowbrow and easily dismissible — the only way to make it acceptable? A lot of men in America have developed a Madonna Whore Complex in part because of this strange divergence. Described as love without sex and…
Exploring human sexuality inevitably leads to a discussion around body image. We need and want our bodies to feel pleasure, yet we judge, shame, think and say awful things about them. So many of the images we see in the media are doctored beyond belief, and we all feel the pressure to look “perfect” (if…