Rethinking Infidelity – Is It Always Black and White?

“When we select a partner, we commit to a story. Yet we remain forever curious: What other stories could we have been part of? Affairs offer us a window into those other lives, a peek at the stranger within. Adultery is often the revenge of the deserted possibilities.” Esther Perel leaves no stone unturned in…

What (Not) To Expect From Your Expectations

Guest post from Lady Jane Think about the people, places, and things in your life. What do you expect from them? What do you expect from your partner? Your cat? Your coffee maker? Your shower? Your phone… Are your expectations realistic, accurate, fair, obvious, or even possible? When you turn the key in the ignition…

Is the World Rejecting Your Body or are You?

  Everyone has one, that is, a body that we walk around in everyday. Our bodies can give us immense pleasure and joy, and take us places – literally and metaphorically. One of my favorite things to explore with clients in session is their relationship with their own body. Something I have noticed in working…

Growing Pains: Dealing with Overwhelming Male Attention

“There are only two tragedies in life: one is not getting what one wants, and the other is getting it.” – Oscar Wilde When you don’t like being the center of attention or even remotely in the spotlight it can be unsettling when all eyes seem to be on you. Extroverted types may think –…

Living Like Roommates: How Did We Get Here?

The term “sexless marriage” gets a lot of attention, but often, relationships are “touchless” long before they get labeled as sexless. I was watching a movie, Le Week-End, the other day. It is about a British couple who, after 30 years of marriage, return to Paris to re-create their Honeymoon. The movie was quirky, yet…