Can You Fall In Love With a Total Stranger?

Have you heard about the 36 increasingly intimate questions that are intended to help you fall in love? In January, Mandy Catron published her experience with the 36 questions in the New York Times, discussing whether or not there was a “road map to falling in love.” The questions were originally created in 1997 to see if it…

Yann Dall’Aglio: Anxiety, Desirability & Seduction Capital

In this 10-minute TEDx talk, French philosopher Yann Dall’Aglio discusses our need to feel valued and desired in the modern age. The talk is in French; a full transcript in English is below: 0:11 What is love? It’s a hard term to define in so far as it has a very wide application. I can love jogging. I can love…

Michele Weiner-Davis: The Sex Starved Marriage & What To Do About It

In this TEDx talk below, Michele Weiner-Davis, marriage therapist and author of The Sex Starved Marriage: Boosting Your Marriage Libido: A Couple’s Guide, talks about how to get back to a loving and lasting long-term relationship: We liked her statement: “Healthy relationships are built on mutual care-taking.” When we think about how decisions are made in…

5 Perspectives About Porn

What’s good about porn? What’s bad about porn? What is simply nobody else’s business? Below are several different perspectives on porn. “Pornography is good for us” debate at the Royal Institution of Great Britain:   “Why I stopped watching porn” by Ran Gavrieli at TEDxJaffa:   “Make love not porn” by Cindy Gallop at TEDxOxford:…

How We Talk About Sex Matters

Sex educator Al Vernacchio says we need a new metaphor for sex, one that’s not competitive, goal driven, heterosexist, exclusive, or rule bound. He suggests that instead of baseball (the most common analogy Americans use when talking about sex), we need to look for something that allows us to explore satisfaction, like pizza. Watch his…

The Coolidge Effect

I’m sure President Coolidge would have been thrilled to have this idea named after him… It all goes back to an unverified story about him and his wife, Grace Coolidge, being shown separately around a government farm. When Mrs. Coolidge came across a rooster going at it with the hens, she asked the attendant how…

Al Vernacchio Asks – What’s Your Sexual Footprint?

It’s interesting to consider the “ripple effect” our actions and attitudes have, especially when it comes to sex. What is a sexual footprint? Al Vernacchio, a sex education teacher at Friends’ Central, a private Quaker school just outside Philadelphia, says it’s the path that is created by the decisions we make and the actions we take regarding our sexual selves.…

Female Chauvinist Pigs

Image © Glamour “What a woman was criticized for doing yesterday she is ridiculed for not doing today.” – Edith Wharton, 1915 Alfred Hitchcock’s films often made us wonder who has more power, the person doing the gazing or the person being gazed upon. Modern expressions of sexuality make many wonder the same thing. In her book, Female Chauvinist Pigs, Ariel…

Parenting Taboos – Brave Parents Share Uncomfortable Truths

Rufus Griscom and Alisa Volkman are married and the parents of three boys. They co-founded Babble, a parenting site, and have spent nearly a decade growing the site to attract more than 4 million viewers a month. In the following video they discuss several parenting taboos they experienced in the early years as young parents: You can’t…

Mating in Captivity – How to Balance Desire and Love

In her TED talk above, Esther Perel argues good and committed sex draws on two conflicting needs: our need for security and our need for surprise. In her book, Mating in Captivity, she discusses when we are most drawn to our partners and why, our turn-ons and offs, balancing love and desire, reconciling domesticity and sensuality, and how to give…