Can “Peter Pans” Ever Grow Up?

A couple of days ago I was having a conversation with a man in his late 50s, who described himself as a “Peter Pan.” He said that he is in a relationship with a woman he adores and wants to make it work, but added that he “keeps messing things up” and she’s about had…

Pleasure from Pain: Endorphin “Highs” and the Subspace

When you are being restrained (by choice) in a sexual situation, you may, paradoxically, experience a greater sense of freedom. Freedom to stop overanalyzing, freedom from responsibility in the situation, freedom to receive. You are vulnerable to the possibilities that your partner is in control of, which can create an “erotic anxiety” that heightens the sensations. Surrendering sexual control…