Are You Talking Too Much On a First Date?

For most of us, meeting someone new is a somewhat stressful experience: will they like me? Will I have something interesting to say? Will I feel included? Raise the stakes to a date and now it is: will they think I’m sexy? Can they see my flaws? Do I have something interesting to say? There…

Help! Attack of the UTI

It has been years since I have experienced a UTI (thankfully) but the other evening I realized one might be coming on. For most people that have had a UTI before, you know the symptoms well. The uncomfortable bloating, the feeling like you always have to pee, progressively worse burning when you do. It sucks!…

Desire Reboot

We recently ran across an article in the Guardian where a man asked: “I am 63, and have lost sexual attraction for my wife of 45 years. I still love her but this has been a progressive issue. I feel bad because I find other women attractive, and have battled with it since youth. I…

Al Vernacchio Asks – What’s Your Sexual Footprint?

It’s interesting to consider the “ripple effect” our actions and attitudes have, especially when it comes to sex. What is a sexual footprint? Al Vernacchio, a sex education teacher at Friends’ Central, a private Quaker school just outside Philadelphia, says it’s the path that is created by the decisions we make and the actions we take regarding our sexual selves.…

Having The STD Talk With A New Partner

We know that talking with a potential partner about getting tested for STDs – or telling them you already have an STD – can be scary and feel like a major arousal kill. Even though it is awkward, open communication about STDs is crucial for relationship success! Talking to your friends about your current situation,…

Consent And Boundaries

One of my professors, a very wise woman that lectured on sexuality, said: “When it comes to sex, wait for the yes please!” As a somewhat sexually inexperienced sophomore in University, I was wondering what that kind of consent looked like. At 27 years old and married, I now understand; yes please is uninhibited enthusiasm.…